We know that the role of parents in their child’s education is crucial: to guide, structure, teach, coach, encourage and set the stage for success. But we also know that we must follow the theological model of tzimtzum (setting the stage for another to succeed and then humbly retreating making room for them to engage freely). We shall not always be present for our children, and we need to allow them to absorb the lessons of life. Hugging too much or too little leads a child to struggle with affection. Getting involved too much or too little in social and academic life is detrimental.
Loving our children means doing what is best for them not what feels most right for us. So those little reminders such as "did you do your homework", chew with your mouth shut", "do you have everything organized for the morning", do count. In the years to come when they are talking to their children and say, "I sound like my mother", I think that is a good thing and I thank my parents everyday for the simple reminders they gave me.
Some simple values require consistent reminders.